| I awoke last Wednesday to a newsletter from one of my favorite mentors, the brilliant Rich Gee- Stop Trying to Be the Sun — Rich Gee Executive CoachingIt immediately caught my interest. Although the article was aimed at corporate CEOs and top-level leaders, I knew right away it applied to my work with families.To get to the point, Rich said, “I don’t force them to grow. I remove what stops them.”Frankly, this is brilliant. Thank you, Rich! I quickly realized that I’ve practiced this notion for years, not just limited to my work, either. It applied to my coaching of Little League baseball. This principle applies in so many aspects of parenting, coaching, managing people, and leading organizations. In fact, after a Bass lesson yesterday with my amazing coach and teacher of 6 years, I realized that all along he hadn’t just been helping me grow in my playing; he had been eliminating the barriers, leaving the growth up to me. As a parent and an advisor to both students and their parents, I find Rich’s quote the best advice I can give. Let it sink in, absorb it into your parenting mindset, and step aside to see the amazing growth of your child, growth that is natural and sustainable. One thing I’m sure of is that if it’s not natural, it’s not sustainable. If you’d like to discuss removing the barriers to your child’s growth, let’s talk. |
From passenger to driver, it’s the bumpy, curvy road transition from high school to college.
| I had just turned 18 two weeks prior. I had just won my Club’s Junior Golf Championship. I grew up in a nice home, in a beautiful small town, Weston, CT.Suddenly, I was 800 miles from home on the Clemson University campus, living in a small dorm room with a complete stranger as a roommate, and making all my own decisions. I was in no way prepared to succeed in this situation. After two years, I joined the USAF. I have a simple explanation for it. What applied to me then still applies to most first-year college students. Up until the moment I was dropped off at college, everything in my life was planned for me. I was a passenger-in-life adhering to the flow, timing, and direction of others. The day I began college, I was no longer a passenger; instead, I became the driver. I set my own schedule and created my own direction. Nothing was predetermined for me. Figuratively speaking, I didn’t know how to drive, and I didn’t have a GPS. That brings me to one of my favorite quotes, from Yogi Berra- “If you don’t know where you’re going, you might wind up someplace else.“ There are reasons why the national freshman dropout rate is 25%, with another 25% at risk of academic probation. It’s all predictable, just like car accidents would be if 16-year-olds were given a driver’s license without taking a course or passing a test. The transition from high school to college is a significant point in a young person’s life. It’s the moment they go from being a passenger in their life to being a driver. Since there aren’t any courses for this, like Driver’s Ed, families need to handle it themselves. In most cases, they default to letting it play out on its own. That’s too risky for me. CollegeLogic students receive training to prepare them for this transition, even though they don’t know I’m training them. My students’ college success is equally as predictable as other students’ college struggles. From passenger to driver, how will your child steer their path forward to navigate the bumps and curves of college life? If you’d like them to drive well and avoid the obstacles, let’s talk. |
Taking ownership in a situation that didn’t go your way requires having accountability for your performance.
It was twenty years ago. I owned an indoor sports training center in Kingston, NY. I had several high school-age leagues and teams. I was always asking parents about their kids’ college prospects.
Then one day, around 4:00, I asked a father about his son’s college situation. He went into a 5-minute tirade about how it didn’t turn out right and that it was everybody else’s fault: the high school guidance counsellor, the coach, and, of course, the colleges.
It was a rant full of outside blame. But it wasn’t the first one I heard. In fact, I had already heard dozens of gripes and complaints from numerous parents, all blaming others for things that didn’t turn out the way they wanted.
By 4:15, I declared, “I’m going to spend the rest of my life teaching young people to take ownership of their lives. I will use college as my platform for doing so.”
Not long after, CollegeLogic was born.
Taking ownership means being accountable for our performance and responsible for why we didn’t achieve the desired result.
In the NCAA Football playoff selection, taking ownership and assigning blame were on full display at two very significant universities and their coaches.
Twelve teams made the playoffs. Two notable and worthy teams did not- Notre Dame and Vanderbilt. Both teams were great this year. Both teams were 10 – 2 against tough competition.
These were two excellent teams. However, their responses to being left out of the playoffs were drastically different, prompting me to add a new, recent quote to my series of impactful quotes.
Vanderbilt Coach Clark Lea said, “That’s no one’s fault except our own. We had our opportunities, and we didn’t do enough. We are not victims in this process. Our ownership is in coming up short.”
I love that. Thank you, Coach Lea. What a great inspiration for us all.
I’m not going to blur Coach Lea’s response with Notre Dame’s, except to note that Notre Dame blamed others and chose to quit the season by refusing to play in a Bowl game.
Vanderbilt’s response stood tall, serving as a strong example of taking ownership… a lesson for us all.
I wish you all a joyful Holiday Season as we roll toward 2026.
Hans- CollegeLogic
Office # 203.470.3704, hans@mycollegelogic.com
People often have big ambitions, but they rarely have the discipline and work ethic needed to achieve them.
I am most thankful, grateful, and appreciative for all that I’m blessed with, including my wonderful family, amazing friends, professional colleagues, and the beloved families I work with.
One of my favorite quotes is a Power Point. What does that mean?
It means that it needs no further explanation.
“Habits must be in harmony with ambitions.”
Let that settle in as you enjoy this great holiday filled with joy and gratitude.
Hans- CollegeLogic
Office # 203.470.3704, hans@mycollegelogic.com
The admissions process to the better, more desired colleges has become much harder in 2025.
| As the 2025 college admissions year comes to an end, it is clear that admissions to the premier schools, both private and state universities, have become much harder over the past couple of years. I doubt that anyone would argue that point with me, but their reasoning is usually based on a common misconception. People think that “lower acceptance rates” equate to a harder process. By itself, that’s wrong. To counter that reasoning, colleges have leveraged the COVID-originating “Test Optional” policy to drive a significant increase in the number of applicants. The policy attracts more applicants. Most top-tier colleges and universities have nearly doubled their applicant numbers since 2020. USC, for example, went from 50,000 applicants and a 16% acceptance rate in 2020 to 85,000 applicants and an 8.5% acceptance rate in 2025. Mission accomplished! On a side note, 35,000 additional applications at $80 per application added $2,800,000 in application fees. For “test-optional” schools, this increase in applicants and decrease in acceptance rates are expected. It all adds to the colleges’ desired outcome, and it’s by their design. Why? It leads to a higher perception of prestige value, which in turn drives higher tuition rates and fewer scholarships. Tuition rises each year, and more families pay full price. This is why the “test optional” policy continues to exist. These three factors add to the perception that college admissions are harder now. 1) People mistakenly believe that academic credentials alone can prevail in winning acceptances. They bypass the most important credential: building a student profile that reflects the student’s credibility and substance. 2) Most students can’t form a thoughtful, meaningful response to the basic, recurring questions asked in meetings with admission counselors and on applications, such as “What major do you want to study?” “How will you contribute to the student culture?” “What makes our college right for you?” They are unable to establish a clear, meaningful purpose for their ambitions. 3) People mistakenly believe that submitting more applications improves their odds. In reality, it lowers the likelihood of acceptance into their top priority colleges. A focus on submitting more applications diverts attention away from the follow-through required to win acceptances. As a result, they disregard the importance of managing their applicant portals and related details. While these are definite reasons why thousands of students are denied admission, they are not the reasons why USC or other similar schools are harder to get into. Instead, the primary reason the college process has become so much harder in 2025 is that there are twice as many serious-minded, credential-qualified students competing for the same number of open seats as there were five years ago. There aren’t enough openings to accept all the top students. Credentials extend far beyond a GPA and SAT score. Top credentialed students focus on scheduling rigorous AP classes, mastering course content, preparing well for the SAT/ACT and AP exams, and scheduling essential activities during summer breaks. They constantly build their profile to reflect credibility, substance, global awareness, and a meaningful purpose to their ambitions. When they arrive for college visits, they meet with the decision-makers to begin building relationships. They maintain communications with them throughout the process. Each year, the number of highly credentialed students competing for limited spots increases. Admission to the better colleges is harder for those students. Making it easy for less-qualified students to apply, thereby lowering the acceptance rate, doesn’t change a thing. The pathway to earning admission to your preferred colleges is built by developing a profile for success that makes you truly qualified. That’s the College Logic way. If you’d like to discuss how your child can build their student profile, let’s talk. |
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