It’s easier to expect things of other people than to expect things of ourselves. It’s human nature.
However, when it comes to family planning for their child’s college and possible career, parents’ expectations can be a burden on their child if not mutually understood.
I understand the role of a parent, as I am one. It’s essential that we set performance standards for our children.
For college, parents are entitled to impose essential parameters, such as limits on travel distance and cost.
It’s also vital for parents to determine what level of academic performance is required to justify the cost of college. You should make that clear to your child.
Your teenage child is no longer a kid. They are growing and maturing. The best we can do is help students raise their expectations and willingness to do what’s necessary. Your expectations alone are not enough.
That brings us to my quote of the week-
“For students to own their outcome, they must own their expectation.”
When this occurs, performance standards are more likely to be met, desired success achieved, and family conflict avoided.
If you’d like to discuss this further, let’s talk.
Hans- CollegeLogic Office # 203.470.3704, hans@mycollegelogic.com
