"You can do what you love and fail. But you can also do what you don't love and fail...and that's a lot worse."- Sean Cleveland, a great colleague of mine!
I love that quote...thanks Sean!
Parents most often validate and prioritize their own interests for their kids, over the interests of their kids. It's been the way of parenting for a long time...maybe forever.
It works well when it comes to pack-survival, but not when it comes to creating successful opportunities and satisfactory outcomes for kids as they're turning into young adults.
However, I see the beginning of a shift to occur. It's possibly inspired by the parents' response to the Covid-isolation of their kids.
In the last two years or so, I see a significant increase in a parent's willingness to better understand their child's deep internal passion and desire. And it's a beautiful thing.
So, here's my greatest tip ever.
The key to enabling your child to live the life that they most want for themselves, rather than the life you may want for them, is to be open-minded to hear their interests, validate their feelings, and prioritize their desires in life's most important matters—COLLEGE, for one. Just make it about them.
I simply call it- Validate and Prioritize!
Parents need to establish parameters, boundaries, and standards in raising children. But it's just as important to encourage and facilitate the child's exploration and self-discovery. This will lead to profound realizations which will then guide the pathway to a child's life success and satisfaction.
My greatest tip ever-
Validate and Prioritize, make it about them!